Sparks and Butterflies...

I’m about to make my first foray into stating my opinion on what is a controversial topic. First, I would close comments if I could, but I don’t know how. That being the case, please be nice to me. I’m stating an opinion. Just as you all can on your own blogs.

I tend to stay away from controversy, religion, and politics. It comes from my fears and anxiety about confrontation. I’ve shared personal religious stuff – but in regards to my life, not in regards to is/isn’t, should/shouldn’t. And in politics, I don’t go there, because I feel ignorant.

Let me share with you the facts, and then I’ll let you know what I think.

Thomas Beattie and his wife, Nancy, couldn’t have children. Well. Nancy couldn’t. Thomas is a post-surgical male who chose to keep his reproductive organs. Nancy had had a hysterectomy, so rather than hire a surrogate, Thomas became pregnant via artificial insemination. He’s now about 6 months along. It’s a People Magazine exclusive this week, and he’ll be on the Oprah show tomorrow.  I have some thoughts on this.

Thomas tells Oprah in a show clip, “I’m a person and I have the right to have my own biological child.”

No, Thomas, you don’t.  None of us do.  We may choose to have children.  We may feel children to be a blessing.  We may accidentally have children.  We may not be able to have children.  But none of us DESERVE children.  Bad people have children ALL the time.

The “pregnant man” is speaking out about his decision to have a child – saying, “I’m a person and I have the right to have my own biological child.”

Again, you have the “right” to a biological child.  Tell that to all the infertile people desperate for a child.  Don’t they have that “right”?  Well why don’t they?  So far I’ve not heard him speak about family, or about love, or about parenting a child.   Again, no one has the “right” or else bad people wouldn’t have children either.

It’s not about you.

I’m not okay with any of this.  This isn’t about gay or straight, transgender, hetero, religion, or any of it.  My question is when is enough enough?  Seriously.  He CHOSE to become a male.  But now that him and his wife need something from a woman that she can’t provide, he is CHOOSING to use his own female biology.  But when is enough enough?

Look.  Here’s my problem.  The GLBT community wants to be honored and accepted in their communities.  They want to both let be to live their own lives, as well as have the civil liberties such as marriage, and the abolishment of discrimination and such.  I get that concept I really do.  My problem in THIS instance is… 1)  It seems to be about his rights and he deserves, instead of loving a child and having a family.  And 2)  Accept me!  Oops no wait…  Changed my mind!  Let me just do this one thing…  Ok, back to male, ACCEPT ME!

I see pregnancy as a process and it doesn’t define who I am. Ironically, being pregnant doesn’t make me feel any more female or feminine.

I suppose he’s just using his own body as a vessel.  My gut reaction still says “wrong.”

Am I just the most bigoted person in the world, and just exposed it to the whole world, or is there something wrong with this.

Again.  PERSONAL OPINION.  While I’d like to hear your opinion I don’t want to hear about how you hate me, or the person who commented before you.