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What the Hell Happened to Me?

November 5, 2019 By Michele Leave a Comment

In a word… Life.

I was looking at my blog and realized that I haven’t written consistently since 2016. Wow. And then life went crazy.

Here’s a very short synopsis, and I hope to come back write more specifically.

  • Mom died.
  • The after mom stuff – like what happened to her body and teaching dad how to function.
  • Getting used to dad’s new normal – which includes hording.
  • Getting used to our new normal.
  • Sassy dying.
  • Pebbles dying.
  • Dad becoming more dependent on us.
  • Dad getting sick.
  • Dad dying.
  • The after dad stuff. Like my family being fucking crazy, and death bringing out the very worst in people, and realizing I really don’t have anyone but Jay. Finding out what people really think of you? I don’t know.
  • Joseph graduating – and going from a minor to adult in all services.
  • Jamaica.
  • Lucy
  • The houses – pre-selling. Selling.
  • Moving, renting, the guest house, and more family what-the-ever-loving-fuck.
  • Hysterectomy?
  • Where we are now.
  • What the plans for the future are.
  • Jim. And Jeannette, my dad, and the whole tale.
  • Updates on Jay, Joseph, Logan, the pets, and me, now.

I could have made a baby since my last post

December 29, 2016 By Michele Leave a Comment

Sheesh.

All I’ll say is, in the new year, I’m going to attempt to write more, and more often. I need to journal to get some crap out of my head, and I need to take the time to do it. I do have some things waiting in draft form.

For now, I won’t make excuses. I’ll just say that 2016 has been a difficult year.

The Incident

June 12, 2015 By Michele Leave a Comment

Also known as What Happened to the Blog?

I suppose the first thing that happened was I was a little absent from the blog anyway. June 16, 2013, my mom died. And then that turned into a spectacularly bad summer when in July, my aunt died. Then my mother’s ex-husband. Then one of my mom’s best friends. With all the chaos of paperwork, moving furniture, selling homes, and dealing with the government, I was overwhelmed, and just trying to put one foot in front of the other while helping everyone else grieve, and not lose clients, etc.

During that same summer, Joseph had a bunch of issues, other than the above. Joseph lost a psychologist (she moved), and got a new psychologist. Joseph lost his psychiatrist.  Joseph got a new psychiatrist. He lost that psychiatrist, and got ANOTHER psychiatrist. A few months later, Joseph was arrested, and put on another mental hold. Which wasn’t exactly surprising, considering everything that had happened to him, and us. But it still means management, and visits, and med adjustments. And court dates. That was fun.

After all that happened in such a short period of time… I needed to breathe. And grieve. So I wasn’t posting – I was internally processing. Then, I was ready to post again.

Only to find out that my site had been hacked, and was filled with malware. I tried to fix it. My host tried to help me fix it… but they’re not WordPress people really. It was too much for me technically speaking and kept coming back every time I thought I had it fixed. So… I hired Deanna. She was able to fix me, thank God. But that took more months from start to finish.

And then my posting was still sparse as I was still dealing mentally. The grieving process was still going on, and we had a lot to deal with with Joseph, which I’ll go through on another post.

I needed to look something up on my blog… and it wasn’t there. All that was there was one of those stupid “Hey you can buy this domain, and here’s all these ads and search terms.”

What?

Where?

WTF?

I went into my hosting account. Everything looked normal. My domain was there, my actual hosting services, everything looked normal. The account was paid up-to-date. You see, on my sites, I do everything on auto-renewal. So I don’t accidentally forget to pay something. And have something like my domain BE BOUGHT BY SOMEONE ELSE.

So, ultimately, in April of 2014 my domain was set to auto-renew… and it did not – an internal glitch of theirs. But, I didn’t realize it until August of 2014. So when I clued them in, with screen shots, etc, they let me know that yep – their system glitched, but it had already been bought, by the warehouser. Great. And then we were in limbo. For a year, with me bugging them monthly. The truth is I was considering litigation. Not like, “pay me oodles of money,” rather “buy the damn domain back!” But I can’t afford a lawyer. So I bugged and bugged and made myself a nuisance. Dealing with Joseph’s needs have taught me a thing or two about bugging right up to the line, without crossing the line.

But it seems there was a change in management. A new chick turned up in accounting management… Decided there was a problem with how I’d been handled. Actually CALLED ME ON THE PHONE. As a result of our conversation, I was given another domain, which she renewed for two years, and a year of paid hosting. In addition, my old domain’s coming up for parking sale in August, and they’re going to try and get it. If I do (and I’m pressing for it), I’ll do a redirect or something so all this work isn’t for naught.

So that’s the story… And I’m back.

A Joke from my Dad

May 8, 2013 By Michele 1 Comment

My dad is 79. He tends to email me every freakin’ joke (minus the boobs ’cause I’ll yell at him) that ends up in his email that his other 79 year old friends email him (from their friends and their friends and their friends, oy). This one tickled me though:

A lawyer and a senior citizen are sitting next to each other on a long flight.

The lawyer is thinking that seniors are so dumb that he could put one over on them easily.

So, the lawyer asks if the senior would like to play a fun game.

The senior is tired and just wants to take a nap, so he politely declines and tries to catch a few winks.

The lawyer persists, saying that the game is a lot of fun… “I ask you a question, and if you don’t know the answer, you pay me only $5.00. Then you
ask me one, and if I don’t know the answer, I will pay you $500.00,” he says.

This catches the senior’s attention and, to keep the lawyer quiet, he agrees to play the game.

The lawyer asks the first question. “What’s the distance from the Earth to the Moon?”

The senior doesn’t say a word, but reaches into his pocket, pulls out a five-dollar bill, and hands it to the lawyer.

Now, it’s the senior’s turn. He asks the lawyer, “What goes up a hill with three legs, and come down with four?”

The lawyer uses his laptop to search all references he could find on the Net. He sends E-mails to all the smart friends he knows; all to no avail. After an hour of searching, he finally gives up.

He wakes the senior and hands him $500.00. The senior pockets the $500.00 and goes back to sleep.

The lawyer is now going nuts not knowing the answer. He wakes the senior up and asks, “Well, so what goes up a hill with three legs and comes down with
four?”

The senior reaches into his pocket, hands the lawyer $5.00, and goes back to sleep.

Thanksgiving Update

November 21, 2012 By Michele Leave a Comment

Green bean casserole is ready for the oven.

Chili rice is ready for the oven.

Stuffing is ready for Turkey and the oven.

Corn pudding is ready for the oven.

Up for today is pumpkin pies, and peeling and chopping the potatoes. A friend told me that I can get them ready for boiling, get them on the pot, and they’ll be fine overnight, provided they are totally covered with water.

Tomorrow will be all about the Turkey & gravy, and playing “what can fit in the oven now?” odds and ends.

This is probably the most prepared I’ve been for Thanksgiving ever. Which is good. Family exhausts me, so I need all the help I can get!

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