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The weird blankness

July 26, 2009 By Michele 2 Comments

So… for this post? I got nothing. I kept staring and staring at the blank page. Nothing clever. Nothing there. My brain is shutting down.

So, I finally decided that IS the post. The final one before the true last 6am one.

1/2 hour to go, and the blankness only came now? I know I had some touchy spots earlier, but that’s pretty darn good. 1/2 hour to go. 30 minutes and I’ll have made it to the end of the race.

The house is still quiet. No one’s up yet. God help me if the kids get up before Poe. 30 minutes and I’m home free.

I truly do apologize for this post. I just can’t think coherently anymore.

23 1/2 hours of blogging

23 1/2 hours of blogging

Blissdom – Friday

February 17, 2009 By Michele Leave a Comment

I cannot believe I didn’t finish my blissdom updates.  I’ve been really sick, and I want to catch up.  So now, we’ll just have to have Friday & Saturday smushed together and just mention the highlights.

I finally met Deanna.  We’ve been corresponding online for years.  YEARS.  But I didn’t know who she was.  I just stared at her, ’cause she looks just like someone from my old work.  The synapses in my brain were misfiring.  Anyway – she introduced herself.  She thinks I’m sweet.  heh.  And she MIGHT be helping me with the site a little bit.  A little bit of refining, let’s say.

I met and saw a whole bunch of people.  People that I needed to meet, that I wanted to meet, and folks who were new to me, as I didn’t follow their blogs.  All of it was wonderful.  I even got to squish a baby girl, which was bliss.  I’m not going to list everyone – ’cause it’s DAYS later and I’ll forget someone and hurt their feelings.  Which I know how that is, so I don’t want to do it.

The swag was fabulous.  Especially the bag – it was a GREAT bag.  No blazing logo, and really sturdy (Land’s End.)

I finally ditched my laptop in my room.  It was great in my room as a setup, but I think it might be time for an iphone or blackberry.

The sessions were really helpful.  I followed the Maven track.  I really got a lot out of them.  I wrote down good ideas to follow up on in the future.

Of course, I had to pause in my blogging conference goodness to take care of a baseball issue for Joseph.  Remotely.  Because it never stops.

I ended up skipping Friday’s cocktail party.  I was people overloaded for one.  I was really tired from not sleeping well on Thursday.  I did NOT want to dress properly.  I didn’t want to make nice or be somewhere loud.  So I took a nap in my room.  I slept better in that hour than the whole of Thursday night.

I got into my moo-cow jammies and hit up the pajama party.  Watched Mamma Mia.  Has to be the cheesiest movie ever – however I loved it, so what does that say about me?

All of Friday and I still had yet to take a picture.

Saturday was a huge day for me.  Huge.

The sessions were great.  The presentation of Yanni Voices was great…  As well as those beautiful men who were there for questions after.

In the session on PR, there was an announcement that Wal-Mart was going to sponsor two people to go to SXSW.  I entered the contest on a break between sessions.  The becomes important later.

If there was a complaint to be had – I’d say that it was the customer service of the hotel in terms of food.  I truly believe that the hotel had no idea WHAT to do with all of us.   So – I had lunch on Saturday – grabbing and going to the next session, ’cause I had to wait for the whole lunch break in line for the food, since they ran out.

After skipping the last session on getting published – that’s when I was writing my angsty post in my room – I did attend the Chris Mann concert.  His music was great, yes.  But he made it a lot of fun.  He actually took the time to research who we are, and what this conference was about.  He was making twitter jokes, and pausing between songs to read the tweets about his performance.  He actually connected with us – made an effort – and that was really impressive to me.

Jen Lancaster was the keynote speaker.  Which of course was great.  And I was able to meet her as she’s friends with Deanna, so that was a lot of fun.  Deanna and I will probably go to her next book signing in the L.A. area and meet up.

Also during the day, I met up with White Trash Mom.  Dude.  She reads me – how cool is that?  We talked about some business she might like to do with me (?!) and parted ways.  I can’t even tell you how excited I was about that.

I went to the cocktail party that night, but did NOT dress up.  Probably an etiquette faux pas, but had I gone back to the room, I would not have come back down, and I knew it.  I had two Blisstinis – which were actually quite good for this total lightweight.  Watched some karaoke and the electric slide.  No – I didn’t dance – we didn’t want anyone injured.  I was at the bar trying to get a drink when Christine was pointing to me and pantomiming “I need to talk to you!”  I don’t know her, and was first introduced to her blog  in a panel I watched, so  I did the whole look around thing and pointed to myself, “Me?”  “Yes you!”  Okie dokie.  I slowly made my way around to the other side of the bar, at which point she informed me that I had won one of the trips to SXSW!  ME!  I was floored.  And then immediately went outside and called Poe.  Can you imagine a better place to pass my business card around?

I called it a night soon after that.  I had my morning flight home the next day.

All in all?  I will SO go next year if I can budget for it.  It was worth it in information, it was worth it in reinforcing some existing friendships, and it was worth it in terms of networking.  Awesome.

Unfortunately, these are the ONLY two pictures I managed to take the entire weekend.  BAD BAD BLOGGER.

Vintage Squirrel (who was gracious enough to have lunch with me on Friday) and I.

VDog and Tanis.  Trust me to make sure that one of the only two pictures I take has boob grabbing involved.

Blogging Identity Crises

February 7, 2009 By Michele 7 Comments

I’m skipping the last Blissdom session as I’m in thought.  And when I’m in thought, I get distracted.  I wouldn’t get anything from the session anyway.

The good news…  I found out that a famous-to-me blogger reads me.  And that she might be willing to hire me.  Perhaps.  Maybe.  If we work something out – AND she wants me to guest post.  Because she likes my voice.  I’m not linking her because it’s not a done deal, and I don’t want to put words in her mouth – or pressure on her.  But this is HUGE for me.  1) Someone who in my opinion is a success reads me.  Sorry, but that gives me validation.  2)  Potential new client woot!  So…  networking works.

But the bad news…  I’m in a blogging identity crises.  There was a branding session.  After the session I asked a couple of gals who I trust and respect, and who know both my blog and other writing, what do THEY think when they go to my blog (in terms of branding and if it is correctly reflective of me and my voice.)  I’m not going to link the ladies –  I don’t want to put words in their mouth – and I’m not calling them out.  I asked them both ’cause I respect them and I admire what they’ve accomplished.  And they tell it like it is.

One said that I am not like my blog.  That in person I’m bubbly and happy, and trustworthy.  But they feel like my blog feels very critical (not that I’M critical of anyone, but the general feel I think).  Another long time bloggy friend that knows me chimed in that it reminded her of a teenager’s poetry diary grown up.  The other I asked said they would lose the cartoon girl.

They both put me in a quandry in different ways.

In terms of the angsty angle (content wise) – I’ve decided to own that.  I’ve only ever written my thoughts and my life.  I truly don’t necessarily like that I come across as that way.  But perhaps the dichotomy of that perception, and my in person perception are parts to a whole.  I can accept that, and I can own that.  But what I DO NOT want is for anyone to think I’m hyper critical of them.  Ever.  Life is hard enough.  We may disagree on some issues – but I’m not going to call anyone out or criticize them on my blog unless they do something to me or mine.  So don’t do anything to me or mine.

I think part of her perception, however, might come from the graphic on my site, which leads me to the other problem.  The suggestion that I remove the cartoon girl!  Oy!  I paid money for the girl.  I have no graphic talent, unfortunately.  So I have to pay other people.  But I have definitely toyed with the idea of a bit more sophistication.  However.  That girl is EVERYWHERE…  It’s my avatar on all the social networks!  I do not have a good picture of myself to replace it with, and don’t know how to take a good photo.  Just not a talent of mine (which irks as a blogger, let me tell you.)  And everyone knows the cartoon girl.  “OMG I KNOW YOU AND YOU’RE NOT A CARTOON!”  Which is brand recognition.

Which brings me to my quandry…  Would different graphics help match my true voice?

I’ve noticed a couple people are commenting more.  Please – help me out readers…  weigh in.  Does the feeling of my “online living room” actually match the content I’m putting out there?  Or would you go with a more sophisticated graphics ensemble?  Does it match my voice, or would something smoother, softer, brighter, brasher, more low key (I could go on) match the writing?  Even better if you’ve met me.  PLEASE weigh in.

Sparks and Butterflies isn’t going anywhere.  Sparks and Butterflies is me for very personal reasons.  But perhaps I’ve grown out of the angst?  Weigh in – comment away.

blissdom – thursday

February 6, 2009 By Michele 2 Comments

As I got ready to go to Blissdom on Thursday, I really didn’t want to go.  All my quirks and hangups about in person talking and in person meeting were coming up.  I wrote a BlogHer Disclaimer last year, and I think I should have reposted it.  It’s like…  I LOVE these things, and I HATE these things.  I love seeing my friends.  I love making new contacts and new friends.  I need to network for my business.  But I’m not the most secure person in the world and meeting new people brings all those insecurities out in force.

I was rather organized in getting ready to go.  Had a last minute hiccup in that Joseph had a field trip I forgot about.  Wouldn’t have been a big deal, but it meant him getting out of school a full hour later than normal.  Which meant no ride to the airport, so I just made a quick Super Shuttle call.  I was apprehensive, as they’ve never really been really swell in my book.  BUT!  Dude was there 5 minutes early – AND had no pickups other than me, so we went straight to Burbank.  I hate LAX, so I opted to go from Burbank to Dallas, and then on to Nashville.  At least I wasn’t going to have a huge layover in Dallas – just enough to get a bite to eat.

The first flight was a little scary.  We were having some rain in Southern California, and we spent a bit of time getting bounced around.  Enough to make me grab the armrests.  We had a couple of those roller coaster dips that put your stomach in your throat, which was…  an adventure.

Does anyone else pray before they take off?  I always do.  I start (in my head) to say I love you to each of my family.  Then I pray for their safety in my absence, and my safety on the trip.  I then pray for guidance of the pilot.  I then reiterate my relationship to God (aka hedging my bets to make sure He knows I believe) and finish with the Lord’s prayer.  Sounds a little silly when I write it out, but I do it every.single.flight.

When I actually landed in Nashville I was a little wiped out.  By the way, various country stars do the airport announcements there.  It was kind of hitting me that I just traveled 1800 miles one way for a blogging conference.

I arrived at the hotel around midnight.  It’s lovely.  Modern, but in a warm way, not a chrome/sharp edges sort of way.  And the chick behind the counter knew that it was me (I had called for the airport shuttle to come get me.)  So, as I’m walking in the door, “Hello, Mrs. Wilcox, it’s lovely to have you here.”  How nice to be treated that way.  The room is great.  Free wireless – yay!

Too tired to take any pictures so far.

Cold too – for me anyway.  I took a hat, scarf and gloves in my carryon just in case, and I was right to do so.  It was in the 30’s when I landed.  Positively balmy for some – but I live near L.A. so cut me some slack.

So, I arrived…  Tired, aprehensive, and excited all at the same time.

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